7 Amazing Steps To Become More Confident

You cannot be happy or feel good about
yourself if you have a bad disposition. If
you are negative, self-critical and full of
anxiety, you are allowing ‘the committee’ to
control your life.
Try these steps to improve self-confidence:
1. Select your thoughts daily the same way
you select your clothes. This is a power you
have to cultivate. If you cannot master your
thoughts, you will stay stuck. To live in
Confidence City, you can’t move straight
there from Complacency City. You have to
reprogramme your thoughts daily for
success.
2. Be motivated by rejection. Enthusiasm
and passion are gifts – use them wisely. See
rejection as universe’s protection, saying to
you: ‘I have something way better; be
patient, have faith, live life.’ Every time a
confident person gets knocked back. they
say over and over again: ‘I can and I will’.
3. Advertise your strengths, not your
weaknesses. Stop telling everyone what you
can’t do, what you are not good at. Don’t
tell anyone you are not good enough. Stop
complaining about what is wrong in your
life, and what you don’t have. Here’s the
thing: 50 per cent of people don’t care and
45 per cent are glad.
4. Remove or limit time spent with toxic
people. Ignore others' criticism. Negativity is
spread by haters, repeated by fools and
accepted by those with low confidence and
no self-esteem. Confident people are not
manipulated into mediocrity just so others
don’t feel threatened.
5. Be kind to your mind. This will be the
turning point for you. When you are about
to be cruel, judgmental and negative about
yourself, ditch: ‘I can’t’, dump ‘why me?’
and drop ‘if only’. Observe and listen… hear
that? It’s the sound of ‘I am good enough’.
6. Stop the compare-and-despair. Put
yourself on a pedestal. All that glistens is
not gold. Hidden deep within you is the
blueprint, the template of your authentic
self. Persevere an attitude of self-acceptance.
Discover and explore your distinctively
human potentialities.
7. Practice self-care. Stop punishing yourself
for what you think, feel, and want. Listen
to what you need. It could be exercise, more
sleep, a hug, tea with a close friend, a pay
rise, to change careers, to work less, to have
more fun. Eliminate ‘shoulds’. Value yourself
by honouring yourself.
Change the messages you tell yourself and
start giving yourself permission to be the
star you are. This is not a magic formula.
You have to make it happen.
IT’S YOUR TIME TO SHINE!