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A decision is set to be announced on the divorce
suit filed by Anita Oyakhilome against her
husband Rev. Chris Oyakhilome, the President of
Christ Embassy church.
Funny enough, the couple’s first daughter
Sharon Oyakhilome has decided to take sides,
supporting her mum against her father, Pastor
Chris. She took to Twitter to post a cryptic
message which seemingly appears to support her
mother’s divorce decision.
Her tweets appear to be similar to the case Rev.
Anita Oyakhilome cited in the divorce papers
where she stated that her husband had been
away for the most part of their marriage.
In Defence of Anita Oyakhilome the FRustrated
Wife:
“Anita Oyakhilome, the frustrated wife of
Nigeria’s most flamboyant preacher, Chris
Oyakhilome has obviously passed through 15
years of adulterous endurance and what she
needs is our prayers and protective respect and
defense of her choices to forget all the anti-
rhapsody of heartbreak she endured all these
years.Fifteen (15) years of being abandoned by a
preacher husband is not an easy way of lifefor
a preacher’s wife. Fifteen (15) years of hearing
that some mini skirted daughters of Jezebel have
taken over your possession is not a joke. Fifteen
years of a husband not staying with the wife for
up to a week on a stretch,while spending time
with some double breasted figure eight(ed)
daughters of eve is not an easy thing to
swallow. 15 years of being used as a showcase to
make church members believe in Rhapsodies of
Blissful Union, while dying in silence,is not a
palatable experience for any woman.
Fifteen years of being called Mama, Mummy,
and other glorified names of Senior Pastor’swife
while some domestic harems sneer at the same
Mummy behind is not a sweet experience. For
goodness sake, this woman never probably had
a good kiss in fifteen years and yet she is being
accused of carnality for crying out loud.She was
continually being led into temptation of seeking
for s*xual satisfaction from outside for fifteen
years and she managed to escape the traps of
sin.
Fifteen years when their two lovely daughters
would wake up and ask their mother why Dad
had not cared to visit, and she would have to
release a lie to stave off the frequent probing
questions. Above all, fifteen years when Anita
had to fake that all is well with their marriage,
while she is actually dying emotionally. Every
person she complained to among the pastoral
cadre sided with the man, and she was left
alone to bear her cross.
I warned some pastor friends with Christ
Embassy early 2013 that they had better settle
this marriage rift between Oga and his wife
before it destroys the church. The same pastors
have called me to express regret that a national
embarrassment has ensued.This woman has
been called Jezebel by some pastors and members
of the church. Some claimed she was
disrespectful while others claimed she was
always bitter of recent.They have tried to
castigate her before members of the church who
came in private to ask for the way out. She was
described as unreasonable and insubordinate.
Her husband, according to news reports has even
followed to cast her in bad light. According to
Pastor Chris Oyakhilome, “Bitterness is prolonged
and accumulate danger. My wife is always
angry and bitter,” Going further he told his
members to “Be careful of the friends you keep.
My wife keeps friends who bring out the worst in
her and help her see the worst in people, instead
of keeping friends that will help her vision,
especially as the wife of a global pastor like
me.”Please, which preacher woman who has been
abandoned for fifteen years will not be bitter
and angry? Was Anita expected to clap and
dance while some hot legs are parading around
the White House?
This pastor’s wife was also disclaimed by her
husband who told his congregants in reaction to
the divorce saga that Anita is not necessarily a
Woman of God.According to Pastor Oyakhilome
“Don’t act like those people. If you are married to
a man of God, it doesn’t make you
automatically mature. You can make mistakes;
you can do something that is wrong. But some
people expect the wife of a minister to definitely
be at the level of that minister and so they may
be looked upon and the expectation may be like
that, but it’s a positional thing”.He clarified his
theory by saying that “If a man of God is
married, it doesn’t automatically mean that the
wife of a man of God is therefore a woman of
God.
“That’s not the way it is in the Bible.” Pastor
Chris also added that “That’s why you don’t
really find the wives of men of God mentioned in
the Bible. How many of them? Who was Peter’s
wife, did you ever know her name? You never
find that out. Who was John’s wife? Did you ever
read the name? What about all theother
Apostles? How many of their names are written
in the Bible. You never find their names.”
Anita Oyakhilome actually proved that she has
fear of God in the manner she worded her divorce
plea. She opted to use the word “inappropriate
relationship with female staff members” instead
of out rightly accusing her husband of
adultery.According to the statement, “the wife
has discussed with the husband his appropriate
relationship with some of his female staff
members. She has explained that this has given
her cause for concern. The husband has
minimised her worries and taken no step to
alleviate her grievances.”
Anita Oyakhilome could have said that her
husband abandoned her and ran into the arms
of sister A or B, or gospel singer C or D and left
her roasting and murmuring in the house.
Anita could have said that her husband is a
hypocrite who says a thing and means another,
but she veiled her grievances of years of
abandonment by saying in the divorce file that
“The wife feels that she has been used to portray
and enhance the husband’s image as a family
man when the reality is that there is no existing
relationship between them. She feels that she has
been present for official functions simply for his
convenience.
On occasions she has been copied into his travel
itinerary which has been given to him by his
staff on a need to know basis”. “The wife has
tried to discuss her concernswith the husband.
He claims that she is carnal and he is
insensitive to her feelings and her needs.”
Thus Anita had acted with much restraint in
order to preserve the integrity of Christ Embassy
and the work of evangelism, and all she got for
her discretion was hate messages all many
sections of church members who wanted her to
sacrifice her marriage to keep them in a
rhapsody of deceit.
This woman, according to the testimony of
many British residents who attend their church,
is one person who is always willing to give gifts
to the needy. She is ever ready to counsel people
and does not breed class. She is a patient
listener who laboriously introduced many things
in the church for which the glory goes to her
husband. Londoners believe that she is not that
demon theywant to portray her as. Those who
know her closely have attested to an affectionate
good naturedness and stickler for details.
Whatsoeverthing some misguided church
members want to think, Anita had lived a lie
formany years. Anita was said to have became
born again at believers Loveworldcampus
fellowship at Ambrose Alli University Ekpoma,
while Chris was thepastor. She had probably
paid her dues as a Christian and knows what it
is todeceive the congregation. She cannot deceive
herself and the church anymorethus she opted
for divorce. Divorce, according to scripture is
unbiblical, but between deceiving a
congregation that already knows the truth but
pretends otherwise and staying in unfulfilled
marriage, which is better. It is a matter between
her and her conscience.
Last year, a Nigerian personality blogger by
name Ese Walter was lured by her Senior Pastor
in Abuja into a cozy hotel bed space in London
and after two weeks of adultery, the man
cleaned up, returned to Nigeria and told his
congregation to shout some Hallelujah. The sin
partner was arrested by the Holy Spirit and she
sought a meeting with the COZA Chief to resolve
the burden of guilt. She was continually
shunned and described as agent of satan even
by other senior pastors in the church until she
turned the internet into the confessional. Ese
Walter freed her conscience and probably
escaped eternal damnation but the entire
Christendom took the brunt of the exposure.
Anita has chosen to free herself from a life of
deceit and lies. The truth had set her free.
However, I still counsel her that if the
misbehaving preacher husband demonstrates a
verifiable change of heart, she should consider
him back and so that somebody can shout some
more Hallelujah. Fifteen years of adulterous
endurance in the midst of charismatic rhapsody
is not easy and Anita Oyakhilome sure needs
all the defense and understanding she can get-
Let somebody shout a better Hallelujah!”
Written by Obinna Akukwe
On information Nigeria
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